1) RUNNING MARRIAGE WITHOUT GOD
Psalm 127:1-2
[1] Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
[2] It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.
2) ENTERING MARRIAGE THROUGH NEGATIVE DOORS
Psalm 11:1-3 KJV
[1] In the Lord put I my trust: how say ye to my soul, Flee as a bird to your mountain?
[2] For, lo, the wicked bend their bow, they make ready their arrow upon the string, that they may privily shoot at the upright in heart.
[3] If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
Pregnancy door
Cohabitation door
Sinful Wedding Door
Falsehood Door
Diabolical door
Love Charm Door
3) GOING INTO MARRIAGE CLUELESS
Proverbs 3:19-20
[19] The Lord by wisdom hath founded the earth; by understanding hath he established the heavens.
[20] By his knowledge the depths are broken up, and the clouds drop down the dew.
— lack of wisdom is the greatest singular killer of marriage.
— If you are not well equipped to build a marriage, you will end up wrecking a home.
4) ALLOWING THIRD PARTIES TO RULE IN THEIR MARRIAGES
Genesis 2:24 KJV
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Siblings
Parents
Children
Friends
Colleagues
5) GOING INTO MARRIAGE WITH FUNDAMENTAL CHARACTER FLAWS
Proverbs 11:29 KJV
[29] He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool shall be servant to the wise of heart.
6) GOING INTO S*XUAL RELATIONSHIP OUTSIDE MARRIAGE
Proverbs 6:32-33 KJV
[32] But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
[33] A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
7) NOT GIVING ROOM FOR COUPLE’S TIME
Song of Songs 7:11 KJV
Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages.
~ The more time you spend with each other, the better both of you will understand each other.
~ On the other hand, the more you spend time away from each other, the more the odds of drifting away or falling into someone else’s arms.
~ Intimacy is impossible if you are always apart.
TYPES OF “COUPLES’ TIME” IN MARRIAGE
i. TIME TOTALLY SEPARATE (TTS): Time spent totally separate apart from each other,away from ones spouse is the TTS of every married couple.
— time spent at work,in different rooms,traffic or with other people etc
ii. TIME TOGETHER ALONE (TTA): When you are together but doing different things,
— reading different books,
— chatting with other people on the internet,
— taking care of Children etc
iii. TIME TOGETHER INTIMATE (TTI):
— Time spent together with attention on each other,
— talking about each other’s plans, visions, hope, fear, belief etc
— time spent together cuddling, kissing, hugging, gazing into each others eyes, sharing love, talking deeply, playing together, flirting, touching romantically and making love.
NOTE THIS
— The higher the TTS the danger for the Marriage.
— couples with very high TTI will have very fulfilling marriage.
Sources: Hero’s Lodge
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