Communication between two strangers can
be hard. Make them both of different genders and you have the world’s
oldest mystery on your hands. Contrary to what our parents said, it’s
not one of those things you get better at by being a good boy and
reading your books. In fact, it seems to get worse the smarter you are.
Have you missed out on an opportunity to
get to know someone because you were tongue tied? Well hopefully this
will happen never again. The next time you want to walk up to someone,
here are five things that you should avoid.
PS: Ladies, don’t leave the challenge to the men, you can use them too.
1) Having Nothing To Say :
Impulse is not always bad and sometimes
there’s no time. But the last thing you want to do is hold her up and
not be able to string together a coherent sentence. You might still get
her number out of pity but is that really a first impression you’d like
to leave? Whether it’s a compliment or a joke, have at least one
sentence ready.
2) Using Clichés:
‘I think I’ve seen you somewhere before’
or ‘You must have fallen from heaven’. Unless you are absolutely sure
this is true, no one wants to hear these clichés that have been around
since 1000B.C. It immediately makes people distrust you and raise their
walls even higher. Your best bet is honesty. Simple sentences that say
exactly what you mean, devoid of Shakespearean phrases will always go
down well.
3) Being Dishonest:
Not all Prada wearing women are the
Devil. Contrary to popular opinion, a conversation that is honest gives
you a much better chance at walking away with her contact details than
one in which you’re lying through your teeth. Exaggerations of wealth
and status are particularly annoying because either way, when the truth
is out your dishonesty buys you a ticket to Blockedville. Women have
various people try to talk to them daily and they so become pretty good
at spotting phoniness a mile away.
4) Making It About You:
Confidence is a nice scent, but not when
worn so thickly that we reek of narcissism. Speaking in a way that
implies you deem it an honour to the other person that you’re talking to
them (because after all, here you are) is a must. You should put the
focus on the person you are speaking to before yourself. Ask them about
themselves instead of weighing them down with your own life story. You
come off as haughty and no one wants to be friends with anyone like
that. Speak in a strong clear voice and make eye contact, implying that
you know your worth, but never blow your own horn.
5) Appearing Desperate:
Sometimes a ‘No’ means just that and not
an invitation to try to convince her by going down on your knees. When
in doubt, her body language definitely doesn’t lie. Over the top
displays of affection will not only embarrass you both but make you seem
creepy, thereby putting the nail in the coffin of your plans. Women are
not all fickle creatures whose minds can be changed by grandiose
gestures. Smile, say bye and walk away.
Do these tips still apply if the person
is halfway across the globe? Sure; what’s more AfriMobile offers cheap
calls intonationally. You can even connect with your loved ones for
FREE, using voice or video calls and text messages. So sit back, collect
yourself and enjoy the conversation. We love connecting people!
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